August 7, 2024
by Carla Hay
Directed by Justin Baldoni
Culture Representation: Taking place mainly in Boston and briefly in Plethora, Maine (with flashbacks to scenes taking place in Plethora, about 15 years earlier), the dramatic film “It Ends With Us” (based on Colleen Hoover’s 2016 novel of the same name) features a predominantly white cast of characters (with some Asians and black people) representing the working-class, middle-class and wealthy.
Culture Clash: A florist meets and falls in love with a charismatic neurosurgeon, who gives up his playboy ways to date her, but things get complicated when she sees a dark side to him, and she finds out that her high-school sweetheart is still in love with her.
Culture Audience: “It Ends With Us” will appeal primarily to people who fans of star Blake Lively and the book on which the movie is based, as well as romantic dramas that deal with serious topics such as domestic abuse and generational trauma.
Talented performances from the principal cast members give emotional resonance to the melodrama in “It Ends With Us.” This worthy book adaptation effectively shows how abuse and generational trauma can be toxic when mixed with love and loyalty. “It Ends With Us” is a story that frankly displays, in sometimes heart-wrenching ways, how difficult it can be to leave an abusive relationship and how a public persona doesn’t always match someone’s true self in private.
Directed by Justin Baldoni and written by Christy Hall, “It Ends With Us” is based on Colleen Hoover’s best-selling 2016 novel of the same name. There’s a love triangle in the movie, where the three main adult characters are about 10 years older than they are in the book. Although there might be some fans of the book who won’t like that these characters’ ages are changed in the movie, people who see the movie can attest that making the characters older in the movie actually gives the story more poignancy. That’s because the relationship mistakes seen in this story can’t be blamed on the characters being too young and inexperienced when it comes to relationships.
The “It Ends With Us” begins by showing Lily Bloom (played by Blake Lively), who’s in her early 30s, driving to her hometown of Plethora, Maine, to attend her father’s funeral. Lily’s father Andrew Bloom (played by Kevin McKidd, shown in flashback scenes) was the mayor of Plethora and a well-respected member of the community. Lily’s widowed mother Jenny Bloom (played by Amy Morton) is happy to see Lily (who is an only child) but tells Lily that she wishes Lily would stay in contact with her.
Lily and Jenny have a complicated relationship that is later explained in the movie. Besides the fact that Lily has been avoiding her mother for years, it’s obvious that Lily has conflicted feelings about her father too. Lily has been asked to write a eulogy for her father, but she’s been postponing writing this eulogy. She’s expected to read the eulogy at the funeral.
On the day of the funeral, Jenny is disappointed to find out that Lily hasn’t written the eulogy yet. Jenny tells Lily just to write down and say five things that she loved about Andrew. At the funeral service, when Lily is in front of the crowded church, Lily tries to say something for the eulogy, but she can’t.
Lily makes a quick apology and leaves the funeral. Lily leaves behind the note paper where she was supposed to write five things she loved about her father. The five notation marks are blank.
The movie then fast-forwards to Lily sitting on the rooftop of an upscale Boston apartment building at night, when she’s startled to see a good-looking man (who’s in his late 30s) storming through the rooftop door and angrily kicking a chair. He’s suprised to see her there and says he’s sorry for this temper tantrum and explains that he’s had a bad day. Lily tells him that she doesn’t live in the building but she’s on the rooftop because she’s “just visiting.” She doesn’t say who she’s visiting in the building.
Lily eventually tells him the reason why she’s in Boston: She’s going to open a flower shop, which has been her lifelong dream. Lily says she’s been “obsessed with flowers” since she was a child. And she jokes that her name Lily Bloom might seems like a contrivance, considering her flower obsession, but she tells him that it’s her real name.
After some flirting, he introduces himself as Ryle Kincaid (played by Baldoni) and says he lives on the top floor of the building, next to his sister and her husband. Ryle then tells Lily that he’s a neurosurgeon. Her reaction is to laugh because she said she thought he was a “crypto bro” or an “expensive prostitute.” Ryle is intrigued by Lily, who is immediately attracted to him too, but she doesn’t really want to show it and is somewhat guarded with him at first.
Ryle turns on the charm and tells her they should play a Naked Truth game, where they tell each other an intimate secret that most people in their lives don’t know. Ryle tells Lily that the reason why he was so upset is because earlier that day, he operated on a 6-year-old boy who had been accidentally shot by his underage brother, but the gunshot victim died. Lily expresses sympathy and decides to open up to Ryle by telling him that she lost her virginity to a homeless guy named Atlas when she was in high school. Lily explains the homeless guy was a fellow student.
The movie has several flashbacks showing how the relationship developed between Atlas and Lily, who were each other’s first love when they were about 17 or 18 years old. In these flashbacks, teenage Lily is played by Isabela Ferrer (who has a striking resemblance to Lively), and teenage Atlas is portrayed by Alex Neustaedter. These flashbacks show Atlas and Lily had a tender romance where they treated each other with kindness and respect, even though some snobbishly cruel students at the school insulted Atlas and Lily as a couple because they knew Atlas was homeless.
Lily and Atlas kept their relationship a secret from Lily’s parents because she knew that her strict and controlling father would not approve of the relationship. Atlas was homeless at the time because he said his single mother kicked him out because she chose her abusive boyfriends over Atlas, who has a hand injury from when he tried to protect his mother from one of these abusers. Lily then confesses to Atlas that her father often hits her mother.
This shared trauma of coming from an abusive home ends up bringing Atlas and Lily closer together. Atlas tells her that after he graduates from high school, he’s enlisting in the U.S. Marines, but his dream is to one day move to Boston, which he thinks is the greatest city in the world. It’s implied in the movie that Atlas and Lily never had a bitter breakup. Their lives just went in different directions, and they didn’t stay in contact with each other after they graduated from high school.
“It Ends With Us” seamlessly goes back and forth between showing the present-day relationship that develops between Lily and Ryle and the past relationship between Lily and Atlas. During the first conversation that Lily and Ryle have on the apartment rooftop, he tells her up front that he wants to have sex with her but he’s not interested in falling in love. He also admits that he’s a playboy who’s not ready to give up his dating lifestyle.
“Love isn’t for me,” Ryle says. “Lust is nice though.” Lily asks Ryle about his overtly sexual pickup technique: “How many women as this worked on?” He answers with a cocky smile, “All of them.” Lily plays hard to get, which makes Ryle want her even more.
Meanwhile, Lily has to do a fixer-upper job for the retail space where she’ll have her flower shop in Boston. Her shop is called Lily Bloom’s, which has a bohemian chic decor. Lily’s first hire for the shop is a talkative and friendly neurotic named Allysa (played by Jenny Slate), who saw Lily’s “Help Wanted” sign before the shop opened and impulsively went into the shop to apply for the job. Allysa admits that she doesn’t like flowers (Allysa explains why, much later in the movie), but Allyssa is so impressed with Lily’s passion for flowers, Allysa says she wants the job anyway.
Lily instinctively likes Allysa as a person and hires her on the spot. Allysa and Lily quickly become best friends. Allysa and her multimillionaire husband Marshall (played by Hasan Minhaj) have a happy marriage, and they welcome Lily into their lives. It’s mentioned later in the movie that Marshall is a tech entrepreneur who sold his company for a nine-figure sum. Marshall is eager to impress people in his social circle to show how much he pampers and adores Allysa.
On the flower shop’s opening day, Lily gets her first customer: Ryle. And she’s in for a shock when she finds out that Ryle is Allysa’s brother. Allysa knows about Ryle’s playboy reputation. And when Allysa sees that Ryle and Lily have an intense attraction to each other, she warns Ryle to stay away from Lily. But you know where all of this is going, of course.
Lily, Ryle, Allysa and Marshall go on double dates together, such as bowling. After this bowling date, Lily tell Ryle that she just wants to be “friends” with him. However, Ryle practically begs Lily to let him kiss her so that he can “get it out of his system.” They kiss in a way that you know will lead to something more.
The first time that Lily and Ryle spend the night together, it’s after Lily went to Allysa’s birthday party. Even though Ryle and Lily have a hot and heavy makeout session at his place, Lily insists that she doesn’t want to have sex with him that night, so they spend the night together by cuddling and kissing in bed. Ryle is respectful and doesn’t pressure Lily into do anything sexual with him that she doesn’t want to do.
However, Ryle comes across as someone who is used to getting his way and knows what to say and do to seduce women. It’s only a matter of time before he and Lily fully consummate their relationship. (The movie’s sex and violence are subtle, not explicit.) Ryle also “love bombs” Lily by being very romantic and doing everything he can to convince Lily he’s the perfect love match for her.
The morning after Ryle and Lily spend their first night together, Allysa finds out when she comes over for an unannounced visit. Allysa is apprehensive about this budding romance, but Allysa also knows she has no right to interfere if Lily and Ryle say that they are happy together. Allysa tells Ryle that she doesn’t want Ryle to break Lily’s heart. Allysa tells Lily that she doesn’t want their friendship to be ruined if things don’t work out between Lily and Ryle. Ryle and Lily eventually tell each other that they love each other. Lily then moves into Ryle’s place.
One evening, Ryle and Lily have a romantic date at a new restaurant called Root. Lily is in for another shock when the restaurant owner comes over to introduce himself: He’s none other than Atlas (played by Brandon Sklenar), who is surprised to see Lily there too. Lily goes into a back room to have a private conversation with Atlas. They update each other on what’s been going on in their lives since they last saw each other when they were high school.
Lily and Atlas still have an emotional connection that’s hard to deny. Lily tells Atlas that Ryle is her boyfriend and she’s happy with Ryle. Atlas says he has a girlfriend named Cassie. When Lily rejoins Ryle at the dinner table, he can tell something is “off” with Lily. She doesn’t tell Ryle that the owner of the restaurant is Atlas, the guy she dated when they were in high school.
None of this is spoiler information because all the marketing materials for “It Ends With Us” reveal that much of the story is about this love triangle. What isn’t revealed is the trouble in Lily and Ryle’s relationship. On the surface, Ryle is loving and attentive. But he gets jealous easily, he has a bad temper, and he has some ways about him that are overly controlling when it comes to his relationship with Lily. The specifics of these problems won’t be revealed in this review.
Observant viewers will notice that Ryle has a tendency to make big romantic statements and gestures so he can be the center of attention and when he wants to prove to Allysa that he’s not a brother who’s a heartbreaker. The first time that Ryle tells Lily that he wants to seriously date her, it’s in front of Allysa. Later in the movie, after Allysa and Marshall have a big life-changing moment, Ryle uses it as an opportunity to propose marriage to Lily. These are all signs of Ryle being a narcissist.
When Allysa and Lily started to become friends, Allysa told Lily that Allysa’s mother gave birth to three kids in three years. Allysa and Ryle had a brother named Emerson, who died when Allysa and Ryle were children. Emerson’s death is a sore subject that Allysa and Ryle don’t really like to talk about, but it makes Lily more sympathetic to Ryle. Whether Lily wants to admit it or not, she seems to be attracted to emotionally damaged men with childhood traumas.
“It Ends With Us” is predictable in some ways but also has a few twists and turns that will surprise people who don’t know what happens in the book. All of the cast members, particularly Lively and Baldoni, give authentic-looking performances. Lively (who is one of the producers of “It Ends With Us”) portrays Lily with an exuberant spirit that fully embodies Lily’s compassionate, intelligent and independent personality. But it’s also a performance that skillfully shows how Lily’s self-worth gets eroded when she starts to question her judgment and blame herself for things that aren’t really her fault.
As an actor/director, Baldoni should be commended for directing a movie where he plays a character who is not necessarily the hero. However, there’s a still little bit of director vanity in the movie because of the frequent comments about how handsome Ryle is. Overall, it’s an adept performance in depicting how abuse comes in many forms, and it’s not always obvious to the people who are targets of the abuse. Many abusers also don’t think their abuse is as bad as it is because they also justify it by all pointing out all the “good” things they do for the people they abuse.
“It Ends With Us” shows the realities of how on the outside, a couple can look “aspirational” and “perfect,” but there are deeply troubling things about the couple’s relationship on the inside. It’s not a preachy movie that shows any crusaders who come to the rescue. “It Ends With Us” has more realistic scenarios of how loved ones of abuse victims are often powerless to help abuse victims who feel trapped and who stay in the abusive relationship.
Allysa and Marshall are the movie’s occasional comic relief on the surface. But the more sobering reality is that Allysa and Marshall are so busy trying to impress people by doing their own version of curating the “perfect couple” image, they don’t see signs when people close to them might be hurting. There are complicated ways to look at what Allysa and Marshall should or should not do, considering the fact that Lily and Ryle are adults who are responsible for their own lives and their own choices.
Lily’s mother Jenny represents the choices that people make to stay in an abusive relationship and how those decisions can affect children who are involved. Morton gives a wonderfully nuanced performance as a mother who is emotionally wounded and desperate for love and affection wherever she can get it—even if it means putting up with a loved one being awful to her. Jenny doesn’t fully comprehend or understand that Lily has been avoiding her partly out of resentment for Jenny staying in abusive marriage and partly because Jenny represents a past that Lily wants to forget.
Perhaps the biggest weakness of “It Ends With Us” is that it doesn’t do enough with the adult character of Atlas. Sklenar is very good in an underwritten role, where Atlas is mostly presented as a brooding and sensitive guy who’s pining for Lily. More scenes were needed to show more about who the adult Atlas is, instead of portraying him as mostly a lovelorn workaholic. The movie shows more about the teenage Atlas than the adult Atlas, even though much of the story hinges on the choice that adult Lily has to make between Ryle and the adult Atlas.
What saves “It Ends With Us” from being a standard soap opera with tearjerking moments is the empathetic and mature way it depicts how difficult it is for many people in abusive relationships to even admit that they’re in an abusive relationship. The insidious and complicated nature of most abusive relationships is that it’s very common for abusers to have a charming and apologetic side. The abusers make profuse apologies, promise to change, and remind their victims of the good times they had. These tactics often confuse the abuse victims and make their victims hopeful that the abusers will change and things will get better.
“It Ends With Us” also shows the harsh realities that many abusers and their victims don’t seek professional help for their problems. It’s especially true for people who want to maintain a certain public image and don’t want to do anything that would tarnish that image. It would be very easy and quite sexist to dismiss “It Ends With Us” as a weepy “chick flick,” rather than acknowledge that this story has a powerful message that applies to anyone: Instead of blaming abuse victims or abuse survivors about when or if they reported the problem, it’s important to remember that it takes tremendous courage to admit there’s a problem, ask for help, and do what is necessary to stop the problem.
Columbia Pictures will release “It Ends With Us” in U.S. cinemas on August 9, 2024.