August 6, 2025
by Carla Hay

Directed by Adam Wong
Cantonese and Hong Kong Sign Language with subtitles
Culture Representation: Taking place in Hong Kong in 2024 (with flashbacks to 2005), the dramatic film “The Way We Talk” features an all-Asian cast of characters representing the working-class, middle-class and wealthy.
Culture Clash: Three deaf friends, who have various levels of hearing abilities, have different opinions about how they want to interact with people who are not deaf.
Culture Audience: “The Way We Talk” will appeal primarily to people who are interested in stories told from the perspectives of deaf people, particularly deaf people who are affected by.

“The Way We Talk” is a lovely and candid drama that explores various opinions, perspectives, and debates about deaf people’s use of sign language versus communicating in other ways. The friendship between three young adults is the movie’s driving heartbeat. “The Way We Talk” is not a preachy film. Instead, it gives viewers the options to make up their own minds and think more about deaf people’s struggles for equality in a world that is heavily oriented toward people who are not deaf.
Directed by Adam Wong, “The Way We Talk” was co-written by Wong, SeeKing, 1000springs and Ho Hong. Wong and Hong are two of the movie’s producers. The movie had its world premiere at the 2024 BFI London Film Festival. “The Way We Talk” takes place in Hong Kong, where the movie was filmed on location. “The Way We Talk” received seven nominations, including Best at the 2025 Hong Kong Film Awards.
Singer/songwriter Panther Chan, who performs the movie’s theme song “What If,” has a cameo as herself in “The Way We Talk.” Chung Suet Ying, who wrote the lyrics for “What If,” won the award for Best Actress at the 2024 Golden Horse Awards. “The Way We Talk” director/co-writer Wong was inspired to make the movie after seeing Hong’s short film series about dead people who communicate by sign language when underwater. There are several underwater scenes in the film showing deaf people communicating by sign language when scuba diving and swimming.
“The Way We Talk” begins with a flashback to 2005, and the movie occasionally goes back to 2005 for more flashbacks. In 2005, best friends Wolf Yip (played by Nathan Cheng) and Alan Ng (played by Jesse Wong) are 6 or 7 years old and students a school for deaf children. Wolf (who is fun-loving and rebellious) is completely deaf. Alan (who is quiet and obedient) is partially deaf and wears a hearing aid.
This particular school has an oralism policy that is common in Hong Kong and in mainlaind China. Oralism is teaching deaf people to learn how to read lips and speak out loud as much as possible instead of teaching sign language. The school that Wolf and Alan attend forbids communicating in sign language. They have a strict teacher named Miss Chan (played by Leung Yuen Wan) who enforces this policy.
From this early age, Wolf is very much against this oralism policy. He defies Miss Chan’s orders by communicating in sign language as much as he. During a classroom session, Miss Chan sees Wolf talking in sign language to Alan.
Miss Chan scolds Wolf and tells him that he cannot speak in sign language and must speak out loud if he wants to communicate. She adds, “This is for yur future. I don’t want you to be marginalized by society.”
Most of the “The Way We Talk” takes place in 2024. Now in their mid-20s, the lives of Wolf (played by Neo Yao) and Alan (played by Marco Ng, also known as Ng Tsz Ho Marco) have gone in very different directions, and they drifted apart. They also have the same contrasting beliefs about how they want to communicate with people who aren’t deaf.
Alan had a cochlea implant at the age of 10, so he has most of his hearing restored. Alan is an art designer who has been chosen as an ambassador for a government-sponsored public awareness campaign for deaf people to get cochlea implants. Alan believes it’s better to communicate with hearing people by reading their lips and speaking out loud.
By contrast, Wolf (who works as a car washer on a roving basis) doesn’t want to have any surgery that would give him hearing abilities. Wolf also will only communicate by sign language. Wolf believes that more people who aren’t deaf should be willing to learn sign language, which he thinks needs to be taught in schools, just like any other language.
As shown later in the movie in a family dinner scene, Wolf’s entire immediate family is deaf. He a good, close-knit relatonships with his father (played by Ng Chi Wai), Wolf’s mother (played by Zhu Hunwen), Wolf’s sister (played by Chan Kei Yau) and uncle Gun (played by Wong Ching Hoi), who also only speak in sign language. It explains why Wolf is proudly deaf and refuses to abide by oralism policies.
Meanwhile, a talented academic student named Sophie (played by Chung Suet Ying), who is partially deaf, is shown graduating from a university with a degree in actuarial science. She plans to work at an insurance company. Just like Alan, Sophie had a cochlea implant when she was a child (she was 6 when she had this surgery), and she has been chosen to be an ambassador for the same campaign for cochlea implants. Sophie and Alan meet each other for the first time at a photo shoot for this campaign.
Unlike Alan, Sophie has never learned sign language. Alan is attracted to Sophie, who seems to like him too. She flirts with him a little bit, but their dates are always platonic. Because Sophie doesn’t know sign language, and because she and Alan have partial hearing, they speak by talking to each other out loud.
One day, after years of not seeing each other, Alan and Wolf see each other at a press conference for the cochlea implant public awareness campaign. They have a friendly reunion. Sophie is one of the speakers at the press conference. Alan introduces Sophie to Wolf. During her speech, Sophie talks about how she’s glad she had the cochlea implant surgery because it’s made her life easier.
Wolf stands up from his seat in the audience and angrily says in sign language: “What are you saying? I’m proud to be deaf?” Sophie doesn’t understand sign language but she can see that Wolf is very upset by her speech. Later, Alan tells Sophie why Wolf was offended by her speech: Wolf thinks that it’s ableism to expect deaf people abandon sign language and to do everything to “fit in” with a hearing-dominated society.
Sophie makes an apology to Wolf, but he’s still not convinced that the apology is sincere as long as Sophie doesn’t care to learn sign language. Even so, Sophie, Wolf and Alan end up hanging out together. And how this trio of friends will feel about communicating won’t necessarily be the same for all of them in the beginning of the film, compared to the end of the film.
Wolf, Alan and Sophie go through various challenges during the course of the story. Wolf starts off working for a deaf entrepreneur, but a dispute on the job motivates Wolf to start his own car-washing business with deaf employees. He assembles a crew of four other guys. Wolf also takes scuba diving lessons because his main career goal is to open a scuba diving school for all people, regardless of their hearing abilities.
Sophie gets what she thinks is her dream job when she’s hired to be an actuary by an insurance company. However, she is treated like a token “diversity hire” to boost the company’s public image. Sophie is not treated as as respected equal. And it starts to undermine her confidence.
Sophie’s prejudice against sign lanaguage is rooted in trauma. Sophie reveals that when she was a child (played by Hathy Law, also known as Law Hei Yi Hathy), her overbearing mother (played by Yam Yuen) used to beat Sophie with wire hangers if Sophie did not verbally speak “correctly.” Sophie’s mother continues to pressure Sophie to not act as if Sophie has any hearing disabilities.
Alan doesn’t really have any career challenges, but his easygoing personality is tested when he sees that Sophie is becoming very attracted to Wolf. At first, Alan had been a sign-language interpreter for Sophie when she talked to Wolf. And then, Sophie asked Alan to teach her sign language, and he willingly obliged.
Alan can’t help feeling a little jealous that Sophie has become closer to Wolf, ever since she learned sign language. Alan tells Sophie that he thinks Wolf and Sophie aren’t very compatible because he thinks Sophie will always prefer speaking out loud over sign language. At first, Wolf teases Sophie about her faulty sign-language skills, but he becomes more impressed with her as she improves.
Fortunately, this “love triangle” turn of events does not overshadow the movie. “The Way We Talk” could have easily made the movie about guessing which person Sophie will choose as a love partner. However, the focus of the story remains the friendship of these Wolf, Alan and Sophie and how they support each other, despite their differences. Thanks in large part to the Wong’s emotionally intelligent direction, the story beautifully unfolds in way that looks natural, not melodramatic.
In addition to having terrific performances, “The Way We Talk” has excellent sound design. The movie uses similar sound techniques as the Oscar-winning 2020 drama “Sound of Metal” (about a rock drummer who becomes deaf), by having sound that reflects what the main character in the scene is experiencing from hearing loss. For example, when Alan takes off his hearing aid and put its back on, the movie depicts the “before and after” sound effects of what Alan hears. Wolf’s hearing perspective is complete silence, while Sophie’s hearing goes through different phases when she finds out something about her hearing condition.
It should be noted that the cast members who portray Wolf, Alan and Sophie are not deaf. There is consderable debate over whether or not any movie about deaf people should have real-life deaf people in the lead actor roles of deaf people. “The Way We Talk” (which had real-life deaf people in some of the movie’s small supporting roles) is not going to resolve this ongoing debate. However, it does give enough authenticity in showing that deaf people are not a monolith and are deserving of dignity and respect in how to communicate.
Illume Films released “The Way We Talk” in select U.S. cinemas on August 1, 2025. The movie was released in select Hong Kong cinemas on December 3, 2024, before going into wider release in Hong Kong on February 20, 2025.


















